It’s the steadfast commitment that another feels coming from you and pointed toward holding them in a positive light that in time becomes the catalyst for lifting their self-esteem upward.
Relationship Tips
Catch Them Doing Something Right
Summary
Mnemonic
Instead of noticing of how the other person is behaving badly again, try to catch them doing something right and both of you can win.
Problem
People's thoughts are habituated toward how they learned in their childhood development to perceive themselves. To the degree that those thoughts are destructive or self-sabotaging in nature, those thoughts can keep the thinker orbiting and repeating undesired experiences in the form of a self-perpetuated prophecy.
Solution
A functional relationship is fostered by understanding that as you develop a conviction that both you and others are in the process of growing yourselves toward being a better self. It’s your steady perspective of finding the better in others that will influence them to eventually begin acting with improved virtue and living up to their potential. You also understand that some processes take much longer and many repetitions than others in order to take effect. This understanding of human nature is why you are determined to ‘catch both yourself and others... doing things right’. It is because you have seen the power of this technique in its results, that you are able to be patient with its process, awaiting an outcome which is to your understanding, inevitable.