How it works
Four small moves.
Write what happened. Keep it in its own private space. See what repeats. Reflect with Sage — while the meaning and the decisions stay with you.
01 — Write the moment.
Write the moment.
Type or speak what happened and how it landed.
02 — Keep the record.
Keep the record.
Touchstone helps organize the moments in a separate private space for each relationship.
03 — See the pattern.
See the pattern.
Over time, repeated moments can become easier to see than they are in the middle of a hard week.
04 — Reflect with Sage.
Reflect with Sage.
Sage names what is supported by your record, asks a useful question, and leaves the choice with you.
Logged over time
Three notes about an unanswered request.
Pattern presentation
Three moments of silence after a small ask in 30 days.
Safe reflection
There may be a pattern here. Does this feel familiar, or is something important missing from the record?
An illustrative example, not a real entry.
Observation is not the same as interpretation.
Sage names what is supported by your record and asks a clear question. It never turns a few entries into a fixed label or a verdict about the person you wrote about. The meaning of what you notice, and any decision that follows, stays with you.
What this is not
- No clinical terminology or diagnosis of you or another person.
- No “red flag” scores or compatibility scores.
- No labels applied to the people you are writing about.
- No predictions about how a relationship will end.
Start with one small moment.
A single line about what happened, in your own words, is enough for Touchstone to begin keeping your record.